The Natural Way to Better Sex

I really do feel for our gorgeous men – they have to listen to those undignified ‘impotence’ and ‘nasal delivery’ radio ads; and of course none of us are safe from the demoralising billboards that bellow at us in big bold letters as we drive our cars along any major thoroughfare – that the answer to any of our self-esteem problems, is to make sex last longer with the help of a nasal spray.

It’s not unexpected that companies are now targeting womens’ libido too. An ad in The Sunday Telegraph’s Body & Soul section announced to me that I could increase my libido, thus enjoying more sex, more often – by taking a little pill. Great! Perhaps the pill works, but like every other miracle pill on the market – what happens when you stop taking it? Personally, I’d rather get some insight into perhaps why my libido may have faded, or why sex with my partner isn’t meeting my expectations and go from there. I can though, understand why the pill or the ‘nasal spray’ seems like a much easier solution to many people.

After seeing an inspiring TV program about Tantra that featured Martina Hughes from Tantric Blossoming; much to my delight, about a week later she happened to stop by the Gorgeous Things stand at the Mind, Body, Spirit Festival. I’m not one to waste an opportunity so I was thrilled when she agreed to share her insights here on the Gorgeous Things blog.

Martina Hughes – Tantric Blossoming

Most people are engaging sexually via the mind, using fantasy and role-play with very little sensation or feeling in the bodies.  Over time, the capacity of the mind to create arousal becomes limited, as sexual energy belongs in the body.  In tantra we use breathing, feeling, movement, communication and the natural polarity of masculine and feminine to bring sex into the body. Tantric Blossoming creates experiences for men and women to engage more deeply with sexual energy and feeling in the body.

Tantra and feeling sex in the body arises from the connection between masculine and feminine polarities.   A woman’s positive polarity is her heart and when her breasts are stimulated, her heart will be engaged and the energy will overflow to naturally open and lubricate her vagina.

The vagina is a woman’s negative polarity and is therefore capable of receiving energy and being activated by the man’s positive polarity, the penis.  The man is active in his penis and receptive in his heart, so he is able to receive a woman’s energy in through his heart.  This creates an electro-magnetic circuit between man and woman, the penis transmits energy to the woman’s vagina, whilst the woman’s heart and breast area transmit energy to the man’s heart.  This completes the circuit and creates a loving and fulfilling connection between a man and a woman.

In many instances of conventional sex in today’s world, an idea of sex arises in the mind, there is some stimulation of the genitals and then the energy is dispersed afterwards with no movement of energy in either the man or the woman’s heart.

If a woman allows herself to open and feel her energy in her heart and the man can bring himself into his heart to receive her, it changes the quality of interaction between them.  Many women have closed in their heart and are often numb to stimulation of the breasts or can become over-excited during breast stimulation.  So it may take some gentle coaching and cooperative loving to return joyous feelings to this area.

The true flow and depth of sexual energy can be present when both partners are breathing, feeling and tuning into each other from a relaxed space of awareness.  Awareness means being present to your own breath, your own feelings, and noticing the breath, feelings and sensations that are moving through your partner.

A woman’s greatest joy is in surrendering to her own ecstasy and reflecting back to a man the bliss that his presence activates in her and a man’s greatest pleasure comes from feeling, seeing and experiencing a woman’s pleasure.

At Tantric Blossoming our focus is everyday application of Tantra between man and woman; giving you simple practical exercises that you can do alone or with a partner to support you to take the experience back into your everyday life.  We also provide tools of communication and connection to overcome relationship challenges – to bring you into the present moment and to be able to meet your partner to create depth and realness.  By understanding how your masculine and feminine dynamics have been distorted, you can then begin to remedy this in your life and relationships.